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I have been dating a man for about 5 months and everything is pretty good.
I processed this and the next day told him that we probably shouldn’t talk or see each other anymore.
My rationale was that I was too emotionally caught up and didn’t know when he would have the ‘capacity.’ He was in utter shock!
He said that he expected me to pull back, but not cut it off completely.
Then, he back peddled and said he prays daily for god to release some of the things in his life.
He also said that just because he doesn’t have the capacity today it doesn’t mean that he won’t have it in 2,4, or 6 months.
Being a woman, I accepted his logic and things have been good.He continues to treat me well, but in the back of my mind I’m scared things aren’t going to change and that I’m wasting my time.I want to have kids and he knows this (and says this is fine) so this further complicates the situation because I don’t want to waste these years with someone who doesn’t have the capacity to commit at this time.Lately I’ve also notice that when we talk about things like houses and cars he uses ‘us’ and ‘we.’ For example, I am considering purchasing a new car (sports).We were talking and he told me to purchase whatever I like, but remember that I want to have kids in a few years and that I would have to get a new car.I said that my future husband would just take my car and I would take his.He told me that if we marry that that car switching wouldn’t work (he doesn’t like small cars) and that I better buy a car that could hold the entire family (including his family). I can tell you right off the bat that I can’t tell you what the best move is going to be, but I can understand the guy’s reluctance to make it official… For a guy who’s already been married and has custody for one of his two children, I can imagine why he would be very cautious in making commitments with a new woman.My bet is that the root of it is some kind of fear or bad experience.I don’t know the guy or have much information on him, so I am just making a guess.For all I know, he might have committed to his ex-wife and once he did, it was all downhill.For that reason, he might believe (on an emotional level) that if he starts defining commitments that the relationship will go downhill.