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The black man occupies a unique space in American culture.He is an aggressive and inherently violent threat to society.Both insatiable and lazy, he is creator of chaos and maker of his own inevitable demise; he is forever guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. As angry and volatile as their female counterparts, black men, by their very presence, give society reason to assume the defensive.

In fact, at a recent fellowship dinner at Columbia Law School, a wealthy, white businessman told me that the biggest business problem occurring in America is the inability of black women to find [black] husbands.

He declared that this travesty is rooted in the black man’s inability to commit, not just to a woman, but also to a job.

Upon picking my jaw off the floor, I concluded three important things: (1) my supposedly personal decisions regarding who I choose to fuck or date or marry are very much political, (2) so long as I date black men, I will carry their burden, and (3) while my decision to primarily date black men is a conscious one, it is not necessarily simple.

As a racially ambiguous woman, I have the privilege of changing the way society receives me at my discretion.

Sometimes I am black, other times I am Indian or Latina, or I may be French, or just a white girl who tans a bit too much.

Sometimes I am intimidating or a race-baiting Angry Black Woman, but I can just as easily morph into innocent and approachable.

Over time I’ve found that the easiest way to change my ethnicity – change the way people treat me – is to change my company.

And the company that most defines us is, in fact, our choice in a mate.

When I choose to date a black man, I inevitably send a message to society about who I am and what I represent.

When I choose to date a black man, I choose to be ignored at bars, barred from clubs, humiliated by groups of drunken white men, or passed over by taxis.

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